Dating traditions in china
The topic is a perennial favorite on Chinese forums and Weibo.These criticisms are 1) patronizing to the women who date foreign guys 2) slightly xenophobic and 3) not entirely unfounded.The parents get a say in the matter, if not out-right organize the whole relationship.
That being said, if you are able to provide that stability, even if you are a foreigner, you will have a much easier time with the potential in-laws.
When two Chinese go on a first date, especially dates organized by their mothers or a coven of plotting ayis, it can be a fairly serious affair, even with children/families/marriage discussed in some cases. However, at least in America, we will go on dates with people we hardly even know/like for something interesting to do, a chance at an actual future together, and—this is important—the potential for a mutually-agreed upon sexual relationship.
I’m not saying one is more preferable or better than the other, but when you are going on a date with a Chinese or foreign partner, you have to keep in mind how they might be viewing the encounter.
You shouldn’t have to feel bad if you are two consenting adults who understand the situation, whatever it may be.
The thing is though, that many times people don’tproperly understand the situation here and aren’t honest with each other, and that’s where hurt feelings and stereotypes start flowing into the discussion.
Source: Keep in mind that these are all generalities, only based on my personal experiences.